Eternal triangles

Two years ago I had an affair with Ellie. For many months I had been promising her that I'd leave my wife but she got sick of waiting and finished with me.
      Eventually my wife and I did split and Ellie and I got back together but the relationship was never really the same. I had been seeing another couple of girls behind her back which she didn't know about. But I have since finished with them as I realised that I wanted to make a go of things with her.
      The basic problem is that Ellie doesn't trust me and I can't really blame her. The truth is I want her and I'm prepared to stay faithful. Is there any chance of making her see that?
Justin, Stroud

I really understand that you want your girlfriend and that you are prepared to stay faithful. But I also understand that with your track record, your girlfriend isn't likely to believe that. And after several disappointments, she has decided to stop giving you the benefit of the doubt.
      Sad to say, it may be too late - I cannot think of any magic words that you could say to her that would make a difference, and a lot of what you say in your letter suggests to me that your relationship with her is probably over.
      I recommend that you put this one down to experience, and learn that solid relationships and deceit just don't mix.

Here are three extracts from Love Coach that will help you to cope with other eternal triangle issues in your relationship.