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Love erosion
I am a 45 year old female and 15 years ago my husband rejected me sex wise - he admitted that he wanted a mother figure.
Since that time I have been having small affairs just to get love, not so much sex just to be cuddled. But 3 years ago I met a wonderful man who I love very much and who loves me. But he will not make that break, because he is 11 years older than me and he feels that he cannot start again because of fear of losing his family.
I only see my man-friend 3 times a week for 2 hours at a time, but I so wish I was going home with him. I don't understand why he will not make the break to be with me. Is it that he likes the best of both worlds?
Moira, Fife
From what you say, neither your husband nor your lover are really giving you what you want. Your husband has rejected you sexually, your lover cannot be committed to you wholeheartedly. You are settling for second best in both cases.
You need to start putting yourself first. Why not try to build your own life, with your own place, as your own person with your own interests and directions? At the very least, this would make you less unhappy. At best, it would allow you to start to believe that you deserve a man for whom you are the centre of attention, someone he can really love wholeheartedly.
 Here
are three extracts
from Love Coach that will help you to keep your love stable.
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